At the very creation of this majestic universe, the only element through which such a huge existence came into being, was the divine love known in the Quranic terminology as the Command of “Be!”(Kunn!). The Divine love, in other words, the Breath of the Compassionate blossoms the existential realities which like the spring flowers perfume this huge universe and through which every single entity whether physical or metaphysical or beyond, came into life and continues so till this universe lasts. When Allah created Adam(a.s) as an Ashraful Makhlookat by inducting in him what Jinns and Angels were lacking like a sound heart with an infinite intellect rooted in the Soul within his very nature. Long before his migration down to this planet earth, Adam(a.s) was also provided with all necessary elements and qualities which could make his earthly life easy and running and binding to the divine path back to his origin and to the Almighty. To be the perfect example of the holy verse “We created you in pairs”(78:8), Hazrat Hawa(s.a) was created as the truer reflection of God’s own Jamaal(Beauty) which perfected the needs of total peace and calmness and mutual upward moment of both of Adam and Hawa. Hazrat Hawa as the living epitome of love, fragility, grace was presented to Adam so that they can peacefully dwell inside the Jannat then down on the earth. So the very beginning of this whole mankind was initiated on the note of love tied with the Divine Origin.
The importance of the mutual dependence of Adam and Hawa as a male and a female equally stressed in the holy verse “We created you in pairs” proves that the life given by Allah to us was never ever motiveless or without any set of goals. It lays bare one of the perennial facts that we have already been chosen for one another as perfect partners to share the innate purposes in this earthly life. Now, how we have to live with our partner to be close to the divinely ordained human perfection and what we must do in order to save our homes from uncertainties and many other problems and poverties arising with the passage of time, here are few points meriting our attention all the time:
Being created on the divine scheme and perfected by the grace of God’s qualities like Jalal and Jamaal, we, both males and females, have to show the high standard of morals and manners rooted in that divine love at every step of our lives. We always have to work to strength and support the basics of the relationships. Love and respect should be the Alpha and Omega of the philosophy of our mutual life to reap the infinite heights in this life and hereafter. Our life being so short we should not plant anything but love to experience the perfumes down the line.
Marriage is the perfect partnership of the mutual love and life sharing between a male and female. It completes our half faith and the other half gets purified side by side. It restricts us from harm things and lead us to live a pious, prosperous and purposeful life . As it is clear by the holy Quran that we all have already been chosen for someone whether that person is good or otherwise. If the intending person is pious then jazakallah hu khair. If he/she happens to be contrary to the expectations, here our trial starts in the way of Allah. Our patience gets examined which essentially bears fruits in other ways not in our expectations. We must strive to seek satisfaction within our essence which alone breaks the outward shells and tear down temporary postures on our faces and that of our partners. To live in this finite world, our mutual life and goals assigned to it particularly post married period must not be confined to this world only, rather the perfection as per Islam is already set within our nature which commands us to look towards transcendence and beyond. Our deepest needs, such as having hope, finding meaning in life, discovering happiness, learning to face tribulations, pain, sorrow, and misery, and being able to confront the reality of death etc. are only addressed by the mutual love and understanding and giving each other time to perfect one’s nature. Hence, the relationship between the two should fulfill the needs and compliment the aspects of our both worlds.
There must be a total surrender of hearts and minds between the partners of life. Both of them are in fact parallel universes in them to say esoterically. Both of whom the only closest persons within this infinity. They must function as the two parts of the same reality and soul and the bridge between the two must not be anything but love. Then, the bigger picture of a family becomes perfected by the time we start a good change in us before we want others to initiate it. The bond of two partners will be strong in this way only. We have to understand our responsibilities and not to find faults in each other. Nobody is perfect in this world. We are in trial world where at each step Allah puts a trial for us to know what actually you are. The circumstances make us or fail us. Each and everybody does have a history of sorrows and miseries which means we must respect the infirmities of each other and try our level best to enrich other physically, emotionally as well as spiritually. (To Be Continued)
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